From 'I Do' to 'We Dare': Embracing the Unknown in Marital Sexuality
Marriage is a journey filled with emotional, spiritual, and physical connections. To truly understand the intricacies of marriage, we must delve into the often-overlooked aspect of sex. In this blog post, we explore the story of sex in marriage, uncovering the underlying narratives and societal influences that shape our experiences. Join us as we delve into the deeper meaning behind our sexual encounters and discover how understanding our stories can lead to a more fulfilling and intimate marriage.
Sex is more than just a physical act; it is a narrative woven into the fabric of our lives. As storied individuals, we bring with us a collection of experiences that influence our sexuality. From our upbringing to societal expectations, our stories frame our understanding of sex and shape our desires.
Before marriage, the arousal and physical engagement cycle in relationships are often vibrant and exciting. However, as couples begin their journey of building a life together, certain underlying issues around sex may start to surface. Saying "yes" to marriage initiates a process of intertwining stories, which can trigger unresolved concerns and tensions relating to sex.
In this premarital series, we recognize the significance of exploring the story of sex in marriage. As Tracy Johnson and Chris Bruno, licensed professional counselors, we aim to help couples understand the "why behind the what" in their relationship. By exploring and sharing their individual stories, couples can deepen their connection and build a sex-positive marriage.
Shame plays a significant role in our experiences of sex and sensuality. Whether influenced by strict cultures that stigmatize sex or permissive backgrounds that oversaturate it, shame can manifest in different ways. It is crucial for couples to acknowledge and discuss the places where shame exists, fostering a safe space for vulnerability and understanding.
Our encounters with body image can profoundly affect our sexual experiences. Expectations and societal pressures surrounding physical appearance can lead to feelings of shame and insecurity. Additionally, individuals may carry emotional scars from experiences of assault or abuse. Engaging in open conversations about these topics is crucial, as the stories we bring into the bedroom inevitably impact our relationship with our spouse.
Building a sex-positive marriage requires understanding and compassion. Couples must examine their stories, including past influences and cultural narratives, to shape a positive sexual experience. Couples can lay the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate relationship by discussing and sharing their stories with one another.
As you embark on your journey of marriage, remember that sex is more than just an event; it is an expression of love, trust, and intimacy. Understanding and embracing the stories that have shaped your sexuality can lead to a deeper connection and a thriving marriage. Share your stories, explore your desires, and always remember that your sexual journey is a unique and beautiful part of your marital story.